My Blog

Sarah's story One look in the mirror is all it took. This despicable, desiccated look, the hair that resembles more a crow's nest resting on top of my head. I can barely remember, this worn-out face, my voice, a lazy drawl. What has become of my...

Hayley's story - Recovery from domestic abuse. *Clients' names have been changed to protect their confidentiality Hayley* first came to therapy in an extremely anxious state. She works full time in education and has been in recovery from a...

Katie's story - Recovering from child sexual abuse. *Clients' names have been changed to protect their confidentiality When Katie* first came to counselling, she began by telling me about her prevailing sleep problems ‘ever since it all started’....

Midlife, which for me began at around the age of 35, has been an interesting period and a deeply questioning time. You wanted your life to be so perfect but the reality is very different from how you had imagined it. You have a busy life, yet some...

“Counselling Needs and Desires” My counselling clients have many needs and desires that are shared with me. I will be exploring some of these here – it would be interesting to hear how these may touch on your own desires and experiences – please do...

My marriage was breaking down and I needed answers. Therapy was a shocking eye-opener for me but provided psychoeducation and self awareness. Naively, I thought I had 'got away with it' as until then, I held a belief that my life had gone...

Overcome Fear of Failure, Perfection and Imposter Syndrome   Someone recently said, “I can't bear being idle!” Who's familiar with fear of failure, while setting the mark for achievement very high and constantly striving for perfection? I...

It was her normal. She'd known this for a long time. In fact, it had always been this way. These were ideas she was brought up to believe. And very soon, she came to expect the same. Doesn't everyone tolerate this behaviour? But I know them over...

"All games usually have a beginning, a given set of rules, and a concluding payoff. Psychological games however, have an ulterior purpose. They are not played for fun and they prevent honest, intimate and open relationships between players." ...

It’s taken a long time for me to embrace fear and I’m still growing. You may be familiar with these thoughts… “I’m not good enough” “It might not work.” “If it does work, I’ll have to do it again soon, because the world will be different.” “I can...