My personal journey with counselling

I was depressed. I was in pain.

I felt exhausted, and struggled to get myself out of bed most days. But I manage to overcome from this bad face successfully. Read How.

My Counselling Story

Counselling helps to:

  • Improve self-esteem and self worth
  • Express Feelings
  • Speak your truth
  • Process hurt feelings and heal from the past
  • Integrate painful feelings from the past and reduce triggers of insecurity
  • Gain control over feelings and emotions
  • Trust and believe in yourself
  • Make better decisions
  • Feel more confident
  • Consolidate my identity
  • Be more congruent and authentic with your feelings

My Counselling Story

Counselling helps to:

  • Improve self-esteem and self worth
  • Express Feelings
  • Speak your truth
  • Process hurt feelings and heal from the past
  • Integrate painful feelings from the past and reduce triggers of insecurity
  • Gain control over feelings and emotions
  • Trust and believe in yourself
  • Make better decisions
  • Feel more confident
  • Consolidate my identity
  • Be more congruent and authentic with your feelings

My Counselling Story

I had been in a painful struggle for most of my married life. 

I didn’t understand why I wasn’t feeling happy.

I should have been so excited about a promising married life and a husband I was madly in love with. I had the most gorgeous little child whom I adored, and for the first time a house that I could call my own.

I was studying for a degree.

I had so many aspirations, dreams, desires and most of all hope for a loving and fulfilling future.

I had so much to be happy about, as a mother, a student, a wife and being an intelligent individual in my own right…

My Counselling Story

I was depressed. I was in pain. 

This dark cloud of depression hung over me, causing prolonged and intense emotional pain.

I felt exhausted, and I struggled to get out of bed most days.

On the surface, it looked as if I had everything. But deep down I was restless. When I tdecided to take myself to therapy, I discovered fascinating life-changing things about myself. My personal awareness journey led me to training as a counsellor.

Now, I can help you to move beyond the complexities of trauma, death, divorce and other major losses. I can also help you to improve your intimate relationships.

My Counselling Story

I was filled with self doubt.

I was very much in the dark about what was wrong with me and why I was having these lousy symptoms.

I made a final attempt for help and support from my GP.

At this time, I knew very little about counselling. After a brief, seemingly halfhearted investigation,my GP prescribed me some anti-depressant pills.

I remained unconvinced that taking pills was the answer to my problems. I mostly stock-piled them, believing strongly that there was another way of feeling better.

I was given a long list of different types of counsellors and psychotherapists, but this was terribly confusing. I found the jargon complicated to understand and it meant nothing to my untrained mind and limited knowledge. I still didn’t know or understand how to choose the type of counsellor who was going to be right for me.

Over a period of several years, with feelings ranging from ‘I’m feeling bad’ to ‘I’m feeling desperate’ and several referrals to various different counsellors, I began taking counselling at my GP surgery.

But none of the counsellors referred by my doctor helped me to feel better.

I wondered how other people could get about their business so easily and effortlessly. But, why couldn’t I?

I soon realised that I was not going to get any joy from my GP. The counselling I received felt more like a ‘gossip shop’.

My Counselling Story

Counselling support, very stretched on the NHS.

With long waiting lists for counselling and psychotherapy on the NHS, it is almost impossible to get the right therapeutic and emotional support when you need it.

Although the short term IAPTS support provided by the Depression and Anxiety Service at my GP practice is free, I found that it was inadequate for my psychological needs.

First of all, I was disappointed about not having the opportunity to choose a therapist myself, who was the right fit for me. I didn’t feel any real connection with the therapist I had to see. Something important was missing. It felt clinical, more like a weekly exercise of answering questions from a ready formatted list and ticking boxes to satisfy someone else’s criteria. There was not enough time to form a trusting relationship with the therapist. I was always left feeling like ‘just another statistic’.

I have since learned that working at relational depth with a therapist or counsellor is essential for therapy to be lasting and effective in the long term.

Shortly after, I did my own independent research online and after reading all about the different types of psychological therapies and how they work, I began to appreciate the value of counselling and decided to take a chance on a psychotherapist who had a practice local to me.

And thus began my journey…

Destination SELF DISCOVERY

“A belief is a thought that we’ve been attaching to, often for years.”

– Katie Byron